There is an unspoken code among men that compels us to keep our feelings to our own selves. It is considered totally Un-cool if any man expresses or shares the tragedies in his life, which obviously rules out the weeping part. You will often hear us whining;

“Rota wota nahee hoo jee , I am a man!”

[(No I don’t cry Mister), I am a man]

Last year a very close friend of mine lost his mother. He’s a very strong fellow. In fact at the day of the funeral he was the one, who was consoling his father and elder brother and it was not the other way around. But after several months I can witness some changes. He is not the same tough guy that he used to be. The fact that; No matter how strong the mount on the beach is, every upcoming wave will casts some damage to it.

I take this opportunity to express my affection and love for my Mother.

“Happy Mother’s Day Mom”

Maa -Taare Zameen Per

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Are you authentically a nice person? Are you Polite, agreeable and blandly inoffensive? Are you one of those who get interviewed by a stranger in a dentist waiting lounge while waiting for your turn? If your answer is yes to any of the questions mentioned above than read on….

What is with these kind of people who meet casually or accidentally and extract your family history which includes your relationship with your husband, in laws, your maids name and whether he is having an affaire with another maid or not, within 15 minutes. Actually these people are like deadly insect who paralyze you with there interrogation skills ( it reminds me of PARAYSH RAWAL in bollywood movie called “JUDAI”) and all u do is answer one after another falling short of breath feeling more uncomfortable to say NO.

Are the people assertive, constant or SP (SUPER PAKAO)? The question arises why are they interested in your life why they wana know about you? As you are a complete stranger to them, the fact is the problem is; that you are too nervous, courteous a tad to well mannered and a great potential to become a DOORMAT OR LETS CALLED YOU SCHMUCK.

If you are this kind of person you might encounter the following conditions on daily basis:

1) The co-worker who has no work to do drops on your head with a big smile and a cup of tea and totally ignorant or your workload or deadline starts complaining about their spouses, in laws, boss and what not……. Umm how can u possibly tell that IM KINNA BUSY… you can’t say a thing cuz u r too nice and u believe in order to be heard you need to be good listener… Bullshit!

2) A friend calls you on a Sunday and u r indulge in your weekend beauty regime with a mask on your face and feet soaked in paraffin wax u pretend to enjoy her chit chat and laugh at his/her jokes but if u have bleach on your face you will be heading to a dermatologist in emergency and dousing your face with calamine lotion for the rest of the day… duh!!

3) How about your mom’s monologue about how she told the oopper walee to be cautious of her husband’s affaire and all this happens when u r in the middle of a hamid mir’s show at geo….hmmm

4) How about u r getting late and the door bell ring where the door to door marketing people r their trying to sell bathroom cleaners to you… But u rso polite that you’ll listen to the whole rote presentation but never open your mouth to tell his/her that I am getting late damn it!!….

5) Are u also the one who lets an old lady drive past by stopping your car and then u wait for 15 mins to help her without realizing that your tailor will close the shop for prayer and you’ll have to wait another 30 mins :-/

6) U also cant say no to the shopkeeper who praises you by saying you’ll look like a super model if u buy this suit even if u don’t like it you’ll buy it cux shop keeper ko bura na lagay… rite?

Being polite and accommodating to other is good to an extent don’t go out of the way by giving discomfort to your self but making others happy. Standing for your rights and not being taken advantage of your good nature or of being assertive communicate what u wana say in such manner where u respect your own rights and feelings and respecting others as well. Assertion is an honest and a suitable expression of one’s feeling, opinions and needs. It is time to stop being taken for granted. Be bold take a deep breath and tell a co-worker/friend/parent that you would love to listen to all their woes but when I am finished with my work. Vow to yourself that you would not be hypnotized by a stranger or any other u know..

But if you don’t than be prepared for a complete strangers to approach you in a bank queue, asking for your cell phone as they are short of credit, or brace yourself when your co-worker wants to borrow your car for a date…if u cant over come this disease;

“THAN HAPPY TAKEN FOR GRANTED SYNDROME.”

 

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I was tagged by Pr3rna. This time I have to answer a bunch of some interesting questions. I would like to Tag: Beeca, Supe, Nikki, Ayaz, R.Sameem and Shahrzad.

1. Last movie you saw in a theater?

Theatre?? Ever heard of a DVD player? Besides I am a Karachiite we dont spend money on movies and overcoats

2. What book are you reading?

I borrowed ‘How the web was born‘ from Rakesh. But am I getting any time to read it?

3. Favorite board game?

Ludo What? dont tell me you have not played this mind blowing game.

4. Favorite magazine?

Newsweek, there was a time when I used to read “Young Times” a lot.

5. Favorite smells?

I like the smell of Bar-B-QUE, especially when I am starving.

6. Favorite sounds?

If you dwell in a city like Karachi you will prefer the sound of Silence. Now You have the right to ask;’What on earth is the sound of Silence’.

Answer; I just made that up

7. Worst feeling in the world?

When bullies mistreat the innocents. One example is Israeli occupation on the poor Palestinians.

8. What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?

That I can sleep for another 10 mins or more

9. Favorite fast food place?

Good Broast What? they make good broast and yes they named the place ‘Good Broast’. How convinient eh?

10. Future child’s name?

Zehra if its a gurl. Meesam if its a boy and trust me I am not getting married any time sooner. Its jsut I like the two names.

11. Finish this statement. “If I had lot of money I’d….?

I’d buy myslef a 1974 Ford Mustang

12. Do you sleep with a stuffed animal?

Do I what

13. Storms - cool or scary?

I totally dig it.

14. Favorite drink?

Lemonade.

15. Finish this statement, “If I had the time I would….”?

I would write a book. A novel perhaps.

16. Do you eat the stems on broccoli?

I am not a big fan of vegetables.

17. If you could dye your hair any color, what would be your choice?

I like my hair the way they are. And for those who are still under this impression that I have dyed my hairs to grey; Guyz they are naturally grey.

18. Name all the different cities/towns you’ve lived in?

Hmm.. karachi, Peshawar. Can I count Gulestan-e- Johar?

19. Favorite sports to watch?

Soccer, cricket, tennis and Beach volley Ball

20. One nice thing about the person who sent this to you?

Aunty Pr3rna tagged me. She’s one of the few reasonable and pleasant people that I know through blogging and otherwise.

21. What’s under your bed?

Probably some dead roaches or lizards. hehe I keed

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I wonder whether there is any one rule that holds true when it comes to relationships. One set of laws following which we can claim that yes I am a perfect partner of my spouse. Every relationship has its own uniqueness, so as every breakup. Everyone claims that I have been a lot. And if we come to think of it; yes everyone who dared to love, been through both heaven and hell.

But the question remains the same; is there any particular criteria following which you can win your love or otherwise. And if we cleared phase one will we be able to move on to the 2nd floor. I guess not

That’s why some wise guy came up with this solution;

‘Everything is fair in love and war’

That’s the most dumb ass advice I ever came across to

I believe women are demanding and men are impractical when it comes to love/relationships. We men when in love create such a big hype and when we reach the pinnacle of our relationship; we loose it all. Like; the amount of interest, our sense of understanding and realization. But women don’t make things easy for anyone. They have a tendency of exerting pressure on the pimple and bursting the venom out. This rule might hold true for other social issues but certainly not for this one.

I dont know if this song goes with the post but JJ looks funny in the majnoo get up

Vital Signs - Tum Mil Gaye:

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Now this is what I call photography !

Danyal Ahmed is a Karachi University student and a very ol’ friend of mine. He is super good at photography and video making. Here are few of my favorite pics from Danny’s gallery. You can catch the rest of them here.

Hoof Man:

The Very Famous W-11

Mr. Crab

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